MINDFUL MARRIAGE: Basic IFS and Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction for Couples

This unique course is centered on the foundational idea that conflict with a partner is best resolved by first “getting a hold of yourself,” then communicating with skill.

Most relationship interventions focus only on effective communication and so-called attachment repair between you and your partner. Mindful Marriage teaches that attachment repair is bound to fail unless you can differentiate between and fundamentally accept your own protective states and your vulnerable states.  This powerful skill is called the You-Turn.

The You-Turn can radically alter the trajectory of negative cycles of conflict, and prevent major ruptures in the first place. The purpose of the Mindful Marriage course is to prepare you for, practice, and find success using the You-Turn. 

Using concepts from the state-of-the-art theory of trauma healing known as IFS (Internal Family Systems Therapy), and basic Mindfulness-Based-Stress-Reduction (MBSR), Keith Miller creates a safe and welcoming group learning atmosphere during this 7-Week live class.   

Course Structure: Two-hour Live Webinar Each Week + 15 Homework Lessons

Each lesson contains a chapter of instruction, a video animation to described the main concepts, reflection questions, and a 20-minuted guided meditation that’s tailored to the concepts introduced in the lesson.  

NOTE: Full access to the curriculum is immediately available after purchase, with lifetime access.   

A 165-page, spiral-bound workbook is available for order, or simply print out the PDF lessons in the online multi-media course. 

FREE MINI-COURSE: Marriage Tune-Up

In this 10-part video series, Keith teaches how having a growth mindset sets you up for success and creates changes in how you feel in your relationship that you can notice immediately. 

Topics covered include: 

  • 5 quick tips for a successful marriage
  • How to improve your marriage without talking about it
  • How successful couples fight

 Total run time of all 10 videos is approximately 40 minutes

IFS Level I Prep-Course

This six-week experiential, online course for therapists and professional coaches gives you the opportunity to learn how to facilitate IFS sessions and get to know the most important feature of using IFS—applying it to your own unique system of parts. 

IFS Level I Prep-Course is for you if you already have some prior experience with IFS either in therapy, attending workshops, or with reading in-depth about basic concepts and techniques. Learn more about IFS here


How can we find rest and cultivate receptivity in ourselves while living in a restless world that values constant progress, profit, and productivity?

Mindfulness teacher and IFS therapist Keith Miller leads this 90-minute video presentation previously recorded in front of a workshop audience in Washington, DC.

This three-part, experiential seminar includes: 

Part I. Why so many good things come from slowing down the mind: The biology of the relaxation response

Part II. The tools for slowing the mind: The Wheel of Awareness and guided meditation demonstration

Part III. Coming to our senses: Demonstration of the expansion of sensory awareness using the hands  

Keith covers the spiritual and scientifically-proven benefits of mindfulness-based habits with humor and personal humility as a person who has struggled with anxiety and depression himself.

He speaks of the dramatic positive impact these practices can have on your closest relationships, your sense of purpose and the deep awareness that you are loved and lovable.


In his runaway bestseller The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma (2014), Bessel van der Kolk devoted an entire chapter to Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy.

Ever since then, IFS has become the state-of-the-art for understanding how the mind works, and how to work with a mind that is constrained by the effects of traumatic stress. 

Keith Miller is an advanced IFS clinician and teacher. He is Level III trained and completed advanced IFIO (Intimacy From the Inside Out) training, which integrates IFS in couples therapy. 

In this webinar you’ll get a birds-eye-view of IFS fundamentals…click below to learn more.


When communication breaks down it is painful. Conflict with your partner is the #1 reason that good relationships get worse. The good news is that you don’t have to sit back and let this happen. 


  • The 3 Keys to Resove Any Communication Problem

    Learn the #1 reason hard conversations fail, and what you can do to make sure your focus goes where it effective and not where it can be destructive.

  • ​​​​​​​Discover the Secret to Breaking Negative Cycles

    Knowing when you are in an uncontrolled skid with your partner is vital to breaking the cycles of attack and withdrawal that can make you feel exhausted and want to give up.  

  • 5 Ways to Improve Your Relationship Today

    This free bonus PDF is given to you during the webinar, in addition to all of Keith’s slides plus handouts on mastering communication skills and how to become a better partner. 

About the Author

Keith Miller is a licensed clinical social worker and director of Keith Miller Counseling, a private counseling practice that specializes in relationships, treating stress and anxiety, and general behavioral health. His first book, Love Under Repair: How to Save Your Marriage and Survive Couples Therapywon the Reader’s Favorite Award for non-fiction in 2015. He is the host of The Soul of Life podcast and has spoken across U.S. on the subject of interpersonal neurobiology, mindfulness, and stress-reduction for couples. He lives in Maryland with his wife of 20 years, and two children.

Keith Miller, LICSW


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