In some ways Bethany is just an average mom. But she’s also
a mom that—for much of her life—questioned if her mom ever loved her and in turn, questioned a lot about her own parenting. Bethany’s a writer, and she became obsessed with a woman named Mary Ainsworth. I’m mean really obsessed.
Mary Ainsworth was a pioneer in the psychology of child development—she died in 1999. And she came up with a procedure to systematically study how attached a child is to his or her caregiver. This is in the 1960s.
Now, terms like “secure attached,” anxious attached, avoidant attached, are tossed around pretty commonly if you eavesdrop into consultations with child psychologists and counselors. And the key to this diagnostic label is that attachment is, bar-none, the most researched area of psychology. It is bedrock. And it predicts mental illness and stability in adulthood.